A
man who proposed to his girlfriend on the social networking site Reddit
has triggered serious backlash for his unique brand of romance.
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On
Monday, Reddit user Malcolm Collins, 26, a graduate student in Palo
Alto, California, proposed to his girlfriend Simone Smith by posting a gallery of humorous memes on Reddit's “Advice Animals”
section under his user name SirTechnocracy. The memes bore messages
such as “I used to have reservations about marriage and they’re gone”
and “Brace yourself: A ring is coming.” It then linked to a secondary
gallery that featured 18 art pieces commissioned from around the world.
Each slide represented an intimate moment in the couple’s
relationship—their first movie, their first date, and so forth.
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“I
wanted to propose in a way that would be meaningful for both of us and
Reddit is Simone’s favorite website,” Collins told Yahoo! Shine. “It was
a tall order to be romantic online in such a public setting; however, I
loved the idea of a slideshow that featured our special moments.”
Collins
posted the slideshows at 7 a.m. and waited for the galleries to get
“upvoted” to the front page of the social networking site (posts are
prominently featured according to popularity). When Smith logged in to
Reddit (her username is LadyTechnocracy), Collins heard her screams of
delight and walked over with a 2-karat, center-diamond engagement ring.
Smith said yes.
However, their joy was soon overshadowed by an onslaught of negative comments
from the Reddit community. Toshibarokit wrote, “I’m holding out hope
that this isn’t real”; SchecterShredder wrote, “It makes me sad that
this worked”; and Sadnsassy wrote, “This is probably the most
cringe-worthy thing I’ve seen thus far on Reddit." One blogger at
Betabeat stated: “Love is dead,” in reference to the proposal.
The
criticism largely focused on Collins's method of proposing — on a
social networking forum, using memes. Despite the captive audience,
commenters complained it was a little too tech-savvy to be romantic.
There were also lukewarm
comments—“I’m happy she said yes…but I can’t think of a worse way to
propose to someone” and “Good luck to both of you. I'm really glad she
said yes. I don't think I would have accepted this type of proposal but
to each their own.” Others were supportive: “Aww, who cares what people
say. You found the one and did it your way. We should all be so lucky”
and “Man, those commissioned pieces are pretty sweet. Good luck and a
happy life for the both of you.”
By Tuesday morning, the story
had generated almost 3,000 comments and so much controversy that Collins
stepped in, responding to his critics almost 250 times. He wrote: “I
wanted to blow her away. The art was a way for me to propose something
tangible. Not just a ring but something she can hang on the walls and
remember for years. True, many of the references may seem dated but they
will always mean something to her and bring her back to today.” Smith
also chimed in with, “This is the most romantic gesture I've ever
received. Proposing over Reddit sure is unconventional, but I give
SirTechnocracy major credit for proposing in the most meaningful (to
me/us) place possible.”
Collins
couldn’t be happier with his decision to propose publicly, casting
critiques as run-of-the-mill Internet noise. “I expected people to have
their opinions—everyone has something to say online,” he said. “There
were also plenty of people who supported us.”
He added: “What
people don’t understand is that the actual proposal was very private.
The galleries were just a teaser to the main event. It’s true that we’re
a little nerdy, but that just makes our relationship unique.”
Whether
or not this proposal is cringe-worthy is subjective, but one thing is
clear: Gone are the days when a man got down on bended knee in an
upscale restaurant. Now, modern-day proposals resemble marketing
campaigns, entailing staging fake plane crashes, flash mobs, or
lip-dubbed Bruno Mars serenades, many of which have the potential to go
viral and land on the morning talk-show circuit.
These grand
gestures aren't expensive to pull off and are often fueled by a desire
to stand out on social media and our obsession with gawking at people's
most personal moments on reality television (thank you, "The Bachelor"
franchise). However, like any other trend, will we ever burn out on
these outrageous proposals? As long as hashtags are printed on wedding
invitations and couples read their vows off their smartphones, most likely not.
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